rape

Date Rape

Talk to your teens about the potential consequences of violence amongst teens in relationships. Warn her about Rohypnol and make her aware that this drug is colorless, odorless and will make her inhibitions low in a matter of minutes. Make sure that she is always out in a group with other girlfriends she trusts and make sure she and her other girlfriends are aware to keep a watchful eye on each other while out.

According to the CDC, Violence is related to certain risk factors. Risks of having unhealthy relationships increase for teens who: (1)

• Believe it’s okay to use threats or violence to get their way or to express frustration or anger.
• Use alcohol or drugs.
• Can’t manage anger or frustration.
• Hang out with violent peers.
• Have low self-esteem or are depressed.
• Have learning difficulties and other problems at school.
• Don’t have parental supervision and support.
• Witness violence at home or in the community.
• Have a history of aggressive behavior or bullying.

Dating violence can be prevented when teens, families, organizations, and communities work together to implement effective prevention strategies.

The video “Break the Silence, Stop the Violence” (link below) from the Center for Disease Control is an excellent resource to use as a basis for discussion of this topic.

http://www.cdc.gov/CDCTV/BreakTheSilence/index.html

The following safety tips below should be discussed with each teen to help minimize her risk of rape. Teach her to: (2)

On dates or in social situations:

• Don’t leave your drink unattended
• Get your own drink and open it yourself
• Have your own ride home
• Avoid secluded places
• Avoid people who ignore your feelings or try to make decisions for you
• Always let somebody know where you’re going to be
• Use the “buddy system”
• Set your limits
• Be assertive and say what you want

At Home:

• Leave some lights on when you’re not home
• Use the “peepholes” when somebody is at the door
• Use deadbolt locks when home alone

Walking:

• Plan your route and walk confidently
• Avoid alleys and other isolated spots
• If you’re being followed, go into a store or knock on a door for help

In Your Car:

• Have your keys out and ready when walking to your car, especially at night
• Check the back seat and underneath your car before getting in it
• Keep your car doors locked, even when you’re in it
• If possible, carry a cell phone

On The Telephone:

• If you receive an obscene phone call, just hang up
• Don’t let anybody know that you’re home by yourself

Useful Websites:

Parents Guide to Violence Prevention: www.fbi.gov/publications/pguide/pguide.htm
http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/index.html

Hotlines:

National Child Abuse  1-800-4-A-CHILD

Sexual Assault 1-800-656-4673

National Domestic Violence  1-800-799-SAFE

References:

1. Adopted from the CDC at http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/intimatepartnerviolence/teen_dating_violence.html (with permission)
2. Adopted from promotetruth.org (with permission)